Uncle John


On Thursday I came across a letter from my Uncle John. It dates back to August 1987 when he was serving as senior pastor of a church in California. I wrote to him expressing my desire to pastor, and asked for his advice. He responded with this letter.

I hadn't read this letter in a long time. I brought it home with me and thought I should email him for permission to post the letter on this blog. It's really good.

A couple hours later I heard that he'd been in an accident while on vacation in Arizona with a number of injuries We've been praying for him quite a bit since then. He's currently in critical but stable condition. My mother is on an airplane with her sister, and should be arriving there later today.

I'm really grateful for this man of God and his influence on my life. I'd appreciate your prayers for him and all of his family. And I hope I'll be able to ask him permission to post the contents of his letter to a young pastor-to-be the next time I get the chance.

She Married Me

If all goes well, as you're reading this, Charlene and I are in Jamaica right now celebrating our wedding anniversary. Twenty years ago today, we got married. I've never gotten over the fact that she said "I do."

No, this picture isn't from our wedding, and no, that's not how we dressed back then - even though my daughter thought we were old enough to look like that back when we were single. But I came across it lately and thought it was worth a laugh.

I'm looking forward to spending the rest of my days with my amazing wife. Happy anniversary, Charlene.

Review: Kiss Me Again

There were times I was reading this book that I wondered what I had gotten myself into. The book is Kiss Me Again: Restoring Lost Intimacy in Marriage. It's written by a woman for women, although she thinks husbands can benefit from it too. I'm still not sure why I chose to review it, but I'm married to a woman and I pastor a lot of women. I also do marriage and premarital counseling along with my wife. So maybe it's good that I read this book. It's maybe even good that I'm reviewing it.

I'm old enough to find the way we view sex today baffling. As a young college girl said in an interview:

These days holding hands in public has more significance than having sex. I was thinking about how easily people will go to bed with someone, but how freaked out they would be if they had to walk around sober holding that person's hand. Sex used to be something that was intimate, and now it can almost impede intimacy in the traditional romantic sense. I realized the other day how long it's been since I had a boyfriend I would walk around holding hands with. I miss that life. (from Unhooked)

Kiss Me Again is based on the premise that past sexual relationships and experiences before marriage damage the sexual relationship within marriage. Wilson shares her story and the story of others, and provides practical advice on how to break free from the past and re-establish bonds of intimacy within marriage.

I would actually recommend this book for pastors and leaders who work with Christian women. We are called to deal with many of the issues raised in this book. I found some new insights in this book that I will be using. It's helped me to get a grip on some of the practical issues that need to be dealt with before the wedding and after. Churches cannot afford to ignore this issue.

I'd also recommend this book to single women. It gives a preview of the issues that will come from getting physical before marriage. It's not prudish. It's realistic, though, about how sex outside of marriage affects us.

Finally, I'd recommend this book to women who would like to rekindle intimacy in their marriage. There's lots of practical help in this book. It deals sensitively with some very tough issues.

I think this book could also be supplemented with other material from CCEF, or from books like Unpacking Forgiveness by Chris Brauns.

I wasn't sure what to expect when I picked up this book, but I'm glad to see someone dealing with such an important topic that needs to be addressed with sensitivity and Biblical wisdom.

By the way, I'll be giving away a free copy of this book tomorrow. And I'll have a much more manly post too. I promise.

more from Amazon.com

This book was provided for review by the WaterBrook Multnomah Publishing Group.